A moms tip on how to survive the tantrums!
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When my daughter turned one year old everyone warned me about the terrible two’s. Looking back I wish someone warned me for when she turned 3! I love my daughter she is my world however I was no way prepared for all the whining and crying tantrums that came when she turned three. Here are my 7 tips on how to survive tantrums.
1. Deep Breaths
When your toddler is having a melt down whining and crying because there teddy wont sit exactly how they want it. Take a moment to yourself for just 2 second before addressing the melt down. Trust me it may seem silly but it will help you stay level headed.
2.Remember they are learning to express their emotions
Being a toddler is hard, being a parent to a toddler is hard. They are trying to learn how to express their emotions and how they are feeling. Trying to express their feelings can be frustrating they might not know exactly what they are feeling and they may need help figuring it out. Talking through the emotions and explaining them to them can really help. One thing we have been doing is drawing all of the emotions on paper (happy, sad, mad etc.) for my daughter to explain what they are feeling.
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3. Talk it out
Im not going to say this is the best thing to do in the middle of a melt down. I suggest to wait until your child calms down a bit before trying to talk through their frustration. When they are having their melt downs its the perfect time to talk through and help them realize what feelings they are having. What is making them upset? Is there a way to help them so next time they don’t have this issue.
4. Avoid Tanturms
Now this one is easier said then done im noting going to lie. Sometimes theres no way to avoid the tantrums because lets be honest for a second kids throw tantrums over the craziest things sometimes. If your child has tantrums in the store I suggest to bring snack or go right after they have ate so they have a full belly. Another life safer is when your out to eat at a resteraunt is the little coloring book with a few crayons that you can get at the dollar store. I always keep one of those in my daughters bag because you never know how long it will take before there food comes.
5. Plan your errands when your child is the happiest in the day
If your child is happy in the morning and very grumpy and tends to have more melt downs in the afternoon I suggest to go in the morning. If your child naps try and not plan anything during that time. I know it may be hard and sometimes you can not get around it but if you can avoid skipping a nap avoid it. Its not worth having a horrible rest of the day because your child’s routine/nap was thrown off or missed!
6. Walk Away
If talking it out is making the tantrum worse and your child is in a safe spot walk away. Sometimes ignoring the tantrum is the best thing to do. I know i’m not the only one who has tried to talk to my child in the middle of her tantrum and it just made her scream even more. Times like that is when I walk away and wait for the child to calm down and is ready to talk it out. Its ok to walk away from a tantrum to take a breath and readdress it. Getting upset because your child is upset only makes things worse!
7. Remember this phase will pass
It may not seem like it now but soon this time will pass. It will get better. It may not seem like it now but they will learn there emotions and how to express them. One day they wont have any more tantrums. Take a deep breath and remember your doing the best job raising your little one!
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